7 NATURAL WAYS TO COMBAT PMS DEPRESSION AND MOOD SWINGS

It has taken me decades as a menstruating woman to finally realize that my intense mood swings and depressive dips were a result of not this particular incident at work, or that particular relationship conflict, or the fact that I’m just a crazy and emotional woman who has no control over her emotions, but instead, my hormones. For years, I truly thought I was an overly dramatic, emotionally immature, overgrown little girl, when it came to my emotions; and I look back now, over all of those years, and I wonder how much of that was hormone-related.

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THREE DATING DOS AND DON’TS FOR FINDING TRUE LOVE

I don’t typically watch trash TV, but I recently found myself compelled to watch Season 14 of The Bachelorette on HBO Max (originally released in 2018). I knew nothing about this season, but I remember years ago when I watched the very first season of The Bachelorette (with Trista and Ryan) and felt so warmed that they actually got married, had children, and seemed to stay happily together. I was also tired of watching promos for The Bachelor, seeing women throw themselves at this one man who just sat back and enjoyed the view, only to break up with them after the show ended. These women were gorgeous and deep and smart, and I just couldn’t stand to watch them make asses of themselves for this one guy. However, I felt much more intrigued to watch a woman, genuinely looking for love, have multiple suitors try to win her heart. It’s all trash, I know, but sometimes I love indulging in trash.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT DATING AND THREE IMPORTANT THINGS NO ONE EVER TELLS YOU

I am no longer single, but my years of dating and struggling with my love life will forever be a part of me, and I truly thank the Universe every day for finally delivering me from that space of singleness. It was hard and I don’t wish the struggle on anyone. That being said, I now know that it’s survivable if you have the tools and support system to navigate the crazy single space and project yourself in a positive direction. For many years (upwards of ten), I was not moving in a forward direction, but rather in more of a cyclical, repetitive, unproductive direction. Once I finally snapped out of that spin, I still had work to do, but it was much more positive work, and much more fruitful!

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THE BENEFITS OF MEDITATION FOR CONTROL FREAKS

I am a controlling person. I am an anal-retentive Virgo. I am a hypochondriac. I am fearful of many things. I like when everything is in its place. I like when people do what I want them to do and I don’t like when people do what I don’t want them to do (or don’t do what I want them to do).

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CALLING ALL SINGLE LADIES LOOKING FOR LOVE

I write this post because when I was single, I was always looking for sound advice from those who had figured it out, and I always felt let down in some way. Either the person giving the advice had a relationship that ultimately ended. Or their advice felt very unreachable and inaccessible. I also read and personally received lots of suggestions and performed almost every suggestion I ever received, all to no avail. Finally, after a certain point, I just stopped reading articles like this because I was so frustrated and depressed about my situation, that I actually felt worse hearing hopeful hints of advice from smug relationship-y people. If you are at that point, or if you are before or after that point, this article still might be for you. I will give you the hard (but loving) truth and I hope that in this truth, you will actually find the hope you need to keep moving forward, taking deliberate and necessary action to finally end the hell of cyclical singleness.

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WHAT I LEARNED DURING MY YEAR OF BEING 40

I will be turning 41 in four days and have been reflecting back on the last year, noticing all of the changes and attempting to mentally compile a list of things I have learned. I feel like I’m coming up a bit short, but I am going to take an honest stab at this anyway.

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THE RUG: A TEACHING TOOL FOR LOVE, ACCEPTANCE, AND LETTING GO

“I am in love with what we are, not what we should be.” -Ke$ha, Animal

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I love Kesha in all her forms. I loved her when she was Ke$ha and I love her now that she’s Kesha. The first time I heard the song Animal, quoted above, these first lines of the song hit me really hard, and I remember thinking, “I wish I felt that way, but I don’t.” Continue reading THE RUG: A TEACHING TOOL FOR LOVE, ACCEPTANCE, AND LETTING GO

MANAGE FEAR LIKE A GODDESS

I’m frenemies with fear, and have been for my entire life.

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Every part of this definition incisively describes my lifelong relationship with fear, with the exception of describing fear as a person. Also, I would replace the word “friendly” with “familiar,” but other than that, razor sharp accuracy. Although I suppose everyone feels this way about fear. And as much as I hate to admit it, the term “friendly” in some ways is in fact accurate, because I would not be a goddess without fear as my “friend”…I just threw up in my mouth a little, but it’s true. Continue reading MANAGE FEAR LIKE A GODDESS

MIRACLES EMERGE FROM THE STILLNESS

I’m still meditating, folks. I’m in my third week now and it has not gotten any easier. If anything, it feels harder because the novelty has worn off. However, I wonder if there is something to this whole practice after all. Continue reading MIRACLES EMERGE FROM THE STILLNESS

MEDITATION: WEEK 1

Saturday, June 20, 2020  |  9:24-9:33am

I was certain that I meditated for a bit longer this morning, but it turns out I meditated for exactly nine minutes again, same as yesterday. Totally okay, good for me! The fact that I lovingly kicked my partner out of the bedroom (he was getting up anyway, so it’s okay) to meditate for a second day in a row, is something to be proud of. Continue reading MEDITATION: WEEK 1